How Guys Feel About Vibrators... August 25 2015 2 Comments
There was once a time when vibrators were scary.
According to a variety of unreliable Internet sources, lol, the earliest known vibrator was invented by Egyptian pharaoh and Liz Taylor doppelgänger, Cleopatra, and it was comprised of a hollowed-out gourd filled with angry bees. For the next 2,000 years, one of the most popular sex toys continued to be an intimidating force. A quick Google image perusal of "first vibrator" returns Roman phalluses crudely cut from stone, steam-operated Victorian contraptions that look like they were invented by Nicola Tesla, and an intimate hand crank model that more closely resemble an egg-beater than an *ahem* beater.
But no longer! The vibrators of today come in many shapes and sizes. All of them are ergonomically designed for optimal comfort and few to none of them are packed to bursting with live, actively perturbed yellow jackets.
The short answer is that asking to use a vibrator during fun time with a guy may make him feel inadequate. He might see it as a supplement that's only necessary to make up for some sexual shortcoming of his own. But the longer answer is that maybe guys aren't so weird about them. A quick poll of male and female friends returned that, while there was a spectrum of experiences—some had used vibrators in bed regularly, some had tried it once, some had never had it come up—no guy or girl had run into a situation where a girl proposed it and the guy refused.
In the instances where girls had only tried it with one guy, it wasn't the dude in their sexual Rolodex who had needed the most help; it was the one they'd been most sexually comfortable with. Because, they explained, while a vibrator does supplement a sexual experience, it's not a replacement for anything human. Nor will anything human ever fully carry out the function desired of a vibrator. When I told a female friend that using a vibrator might make a guy feel insecure, she put it eloquently: "Well, that's stupid. Sorry your cocks aren't battery-powered."
And more importantly, most guys seem to understand this. Out of the guys whose partners had wanted to try it, some were excited by the idea of spicing things up and some were indifferent, but none were offended or embarrassed. So if you're interested in bringing some good vibrations into the bedroom, don’t stress too much about your partner's reaction. He'll probably be happy to do it and he might even be excited.
If not, see how he feels about bees.
Here are some tips to help in the bedroom!
Buzz it on him before you strip him down. Lay him on the bed, turn it on, and rub it over him. Start at his knees, run up his upper thighs, and circle it around the bulge in his pants. This way, he'll get comfortable with the feeling.
Start on a slow setting, and use the tip to circle your nipples and then his. As you circle, turn up the speed. Alternate between the vibrator and sucking his nipple (he should do the same to you). The back-and-forth and the heat from your lips feel amazing.
Turn it up full throttle (the shaft of a guy's penis isn't so sensitive, so he can handle it). Then move it up one side of his package and down the other. It'll stimulate his entire penis and make him extrahard.
During oral, hold the side of your vibe against your cheek as you take him in and out. Your wet, quivering mouth will feel unexpected and arousing.
Turn it down low, and wrap it in your panties to lessen the sensation. Then hold the vibrator against his boys while you fondle his shaft. A guy's testicles can't take very much stimulation, so the muffled shaking is right.
While he uses his tongue to pleasure you, have him put the vibrator inside you angled slightly toward your belly button — that way, it will hit your G-spot (the spongy, dimesize area about 2 inches inside you that is pleasurepacked with nerves). The combo of stimulation will make for an incredibly intense orgasm.
Give him total control of the toy, and let him use it on you during penetration. Here's a position that opens you up perfectly for him: Have him lie on his back, then get on top and lie so your back is against his chest. The entire front of your body is revealed, and he can reach around and trail the vibrator from your breasts to your clitoris.
His perineum — the small patch of skin between his balls and anus — is supersensitive. Pick up a small, egg-shaped model (putting anything bigger near his booty may freak him out), and whip it out while you're on top. As you ride him, reach behind and hold it against that area.
If he is hesitant about incorporating a toy into sex, start him off slowly with a vibrating ring (Trojan and Durex make them, and they're available at the drugstore). It's a silicone ring you can slip around his penis that has a tiny vibrator attached. The pulsing will feel awesome at the base of his penis, and if he's on top, it'll hit your clitoris as he thrusts.
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